Since being with a Musician, I always get asked the same questions. Then ever since I married one, they have become more frequent and more annoying. And because Im a Musicians Wife I see, hear, witness, and experience a heck of a lot, that answers all your questions. So since I am tired of constantly answering the same questions at every gig, to every new girlfriend, and every outsider, I decided to write about it!
First the number one question…that NEVER fails…
Is it true that all Musicians are ho’s/whores/sluts?
Yes…yes, they are. Well, let me retract and say NOT ALL, AS IN EVERY LAST MUSICIAN IN THIS WORLD IS A MAN WHORE, but every maybe 2 out of 4 IS. I don’t care what anyone else tells you. One thing people need to understand that no matter who they play for, big name, or small music figure, they are still MEN, they have needs, wants, fantasies and desires, and with so many women around ALL THE TIME, how can they not go about their wants, and desires. Thats just it, the answer is yes. yes, yes, yes, yes, YES so stop freaking asking that “rumor” is not a rumor it is a known true fact, that everyone knows. Now whether they were whores before they came across the right one then so be it, once before they were slutting it up.
Is the “groupie” thing forreal? Or exaggerated?
it is REAL. As real as you are a person, is as real as a groupie is in the music world. Don’t be fooled, Musicians have groupies too. To my surprise a lot, and a lot more often then I had originally thought. Why? I always asked myself. I figured women always went for the artist, but honey them babies will go for the Musician…the closest thing to their target. Then, when I married my Husband I’ve learned that a lot of women’s preference is the actual Musician himself. CRAZY right?!?!?! I couldn’t believe it. Over the years I have heard girls talk about Musicians like they were the gods of the music world. Like they were the most, famous, sexiest, most unbelievable thing in the planet. Blew my mind.
Don’t get me wrong the very first time I seen my Husband play the Keys on our first date, my whole insides went into a frenzy! So I get it, but I wasn’t pressed on him. It just made me admire that he had true talent, and had fun doing it. Many gigs after that I witnessed the groupie train. Yes, these girls wait till after a concert, or service (depending on type of music) and go up to the Musicians, while they are packing up, and or in their little circle talking, and be all in their face or hanging around. I mean i’ve notice the same girl/girls ALWAYS around Musicians ALWAYS. Suspect maybe…YES…GROUPIE.
They are real, they are around, they are willing and ready to just catch whatever one they can…aaannnddd thats all Im going to say about that!
Are Musicians really freaks?
I laugh at this question each, and every time someone has the balls enough to ask me. I always felt like this was their way of asking me was my man a freak…I know your game…GROUPIE trying to befriend me…mmhhhmm. But, I say the same thing each and every time. I don’t know! Lol Honestly, I can only speak from my experience, and I don’t have any because my Husband is the only serious detailed relationship I have had with a true Musician. Now whether he is nasty, or a freak wouldn’t apply to him being a Musician but just him in general as a person.
Yes, I’ve heard conversations take place at a gig, where a group of girls were talking, and one saying how she preferred having a Musician because they were nasty, and freaks. And that they had better sex, she didn’t know why and didn’t care because it was good…ALL the time. APPALLED I was. This is a lady that just put herself all out there. This is why Groupies exist people!!! To much for me honey! But that keeps her boat afloat so hey, just don’t float your a$$ over here.
So, from what I heard, and stories I have been told I can’t say whether they are, or they are not.
Do Musicians make a lot of money?
Sometimes this question here really grinds my gears, because it goes to a deeper level, in the music world that I am attached to. But, it all depends on the gig, the artist, the establishment, and their level of talent. Theres some that make enough in one gig to pay your rent, utilities, car note, and everything in between for that month, shoot maybe even a few months. There are some that make enough to put gas in the car, and grab something to eat, and there are some that make whats in between. Like I said it all depends.
Do they have their own language?
Oh my god YES. They do, and it rubs off on you. I heard myself saying jax like i have been saying it forever! Tired as jax, hungry as jax, weird as jax, fixed, down in flames, all that nonsense they say. If you have no clue about music like keys, notes, hitting on the one, etc then it will sound like a completely different language…literally.
What’s it like, being MARRIED to a Musician?
Its ok. Not gonna lie or pump it up. It has its moments. Overall its ok…to me. Understand I was a girlfriend before I was a Wife. So I got the girlfriend treatment, which I believe was a lot better then the girlfriend treatment i’ve seen over the years, and when you get that you get the treatment where you can be welcomed or not. Because lets be honest, you might not be here very long.
The pros, I get to watch and be apart of his career. Not job, its his career literally. The traveling is always nice. I’ve met some really cool, talented, and amazing people from Singers, to Artist, Musicians, Sound People, Event staff, even other Wives that I can really relate to. Everything that I’m proud to say I’m connected to in some way shape or form on the account of him. Ive learned a lot, especially about him, and his world. Yes its a whole nother’ world. i’ve even learned a lot of things about music i never realized before. I don’t even listen/hear music the same anymore, since I have been with him.
The cons, when he is working or goes on the road a lot. There are certain times of the year that are just extremely busy more so then others. I mean back to back to back, non stop he can’t get a full nights sleep type of busy. And being as though it’s no longer us, but us and our daughter, it gets tough, and a little frustrating. The groupies, wanna be “friends” (females). The certain gigs, or people that don’t come through on their word. Just to name a few…
Please understand that I am not bashing Musicians or this life in any way. Im just being honest, in what I have come to learn. I always ask myself what in the hell was I thinking marrying a damn Musician, smh. I must have been on something, and why the hell didn’t anyone object at the wedding?!?! But to be completely honest…I wouldn’t trade this in for anything. You have to be one tough cookie, especially if you have a family, because he has to provide and work and if music is how he does so, you have to know how to cope, and do it properly. So those late nights when he is up, making tracks, listening to music, or in those stupid late rehearsals, or gigs that run till 1 am, or wind up staying another night out of town, studio sessions all day, or all night know it comes with the territory.
So cook dinner, make a plate pop it in the oven, to heat when he gets home. Make sure the house is clean, baby is good, and don’t be naggy and moody when he gets home.
There you have it…now stop asking me the same questions!